Since assembly and marrying in 2017, Cardi B and Offset have continued to regressively redefine “toxicity.” All through their tumultuous relationship, the rap duo has shared their non-public life with the general public by way of social media — the nice, the dangerous, and the downright…there are not any phrases. From the beginning of this relationship, it’s been raining purple flags. I’m speaking monsoon season.
So, when Cardi, 32, filed for divorce (for a second time) in July 2024, my first thought was, “lastly.”
I actually don’t get pleasure from the dissolution of a wedding or the dismantling of any household—they share three kids, daughter Kulture, 6, son Wave, 3, and a 7-month-old child woman whose title they haven’t revealed but. However given the latest load of soiled laundry the couple aired out, it’s clear the extent of dysfunction of their relationship has transcended toxicity. There may be now trigger for concern, and the state of affairs has turn into abusive.
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I do know an irredeemable f–kboy once I see one, so I’ve all the time acknowledged Offset’s unhealthy traits and ways. The previous Migos member, 33, is undoubtedly a 5-star basic within the artwork of heartbreak warfare, commonly resorting to the standard go-to weapons of destruction within the f–kboy’s arsenal. These embody perpetual womanizing, compulsive mendacity, love bombing, manipulation, gaslighting, and grandiose public shows of affection.
Keep in mind again in October 2017 when he ambushed, err, “shocked” the Love & Hip Hop: New York alum onstage in entrance of a sold-out crowd in Philadelphia to “suggest” with an eight-carat diamond ring? Just for us to quickly be taught the “Clout” rappers had already secretly married on September 17, 2017, and the grand gesture was harm management for him reportedly dishonest. Basic f–kboy schemes.
Not Simply One other “Hood Love Story”
For the reason that two have overshared and overexposed a lot of their non-public lives with the general public through the years, it’s simple to turn into desensitized to the true damaging nature of their seemingly foolish shenanigans. Particularly within the social media age, we regularly write off the continuing breakups to makeups, dishonest scandals, and public humiliations of movie star {couples} like Cardi B and Offset, Stevie J and Joseline, and Blueface and Chrisean Rock as par for the course in any “hood love story.”
Nevertheless, typically, behind the extra apparent messy antics, linger extra severe points with insecurity, jealousy, and possessiveness, which might rework into or disguise varied types of abuse with out the victims even realizing.
My Spidey senses actually began tingling on excessive alert with Offset final September when the Atlanta native not-so-subtly tried to publicly embarrass his ex by accusing her of getting intercourse with one other man whereas pregnant with their third baby. “U f–ked with a child inside, inform the reality!!” he commented throughout Cardi’s Instagram Stay stream, per a screenshot from the recording, which was shared on X.
The 2 continued to battle forwards and backwards into the following day when Offset took to his Instagram for one more try and humiliate Cardi and his closing mic drop second. Ever so eloquently and properly punctuated, he wrote, “Everyone can see I don’t need you ! It’s okay I’m not speaking bout this Nomo all love u will probably be calling me after couple months u my bm I gained [laughing emoji].”
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Pyrrhic Victory
The phrases “u my bm I gained” confirmed each aversive feeling Offset had triggered in me. As clumsily written and juvenile because it was, this proclamation of possession and victory alluded to far more worrying sentiments. Albeit becoming, since he’s confirmed himself to be fairly the canine, that is the equal of him taking an enormous dump on Cardi to mark his territory. It additionally suggests a way of possession over her, and never due to their deep emotional bond or marital standing. However as a result of they share three kids. And FYI, Offset has six children starting from 15 years outdated to lower than one with 4 completely different ladies.
“I hate to interrupt it to Cardi, but when she thinks, like, that is only a coincidence, you realize, like, that is solely the start,” remarked TMZ Producer Trent Clark after Offset unexpectedly arrived at The Stafford Room nightclub in New York Metropolis the place Cardi was partying with girlfriends final October. “They’ve three children collectively. Divorce or not, you realize, they’re all the time going to be tied collectively…He simply got here to make his presence felt.”
Though the “Disrespectful” rapper by no means made contact along with his estranged spouse and shortly left the membership after the DJ introduced him being there, Clark reasoned, “He was simply doing it simply to remind her that he exists, and so they bought three children collectively.”
No sir. That’s not a reminder. That’s intimidation and stalking.
Through the years, we’ve been aware of comparable situations of Offset’s “microaggressions.” However now that evidently Cardi is severe about ending their nearly eight-year-long marriage, she has revealed that his habits has turn into more and more regarding.
On March 28, the Bronx native up to date followers on Instagram Stay about what she’s been coping with behind the scenes for the previous a number of months. She accused her ex of monitoring her journey when she’s out of city and “harassing” her with telephone calls in addition to the boys she’s “been coping with for months already,” and her buddies, alleging, “You despatched folks to get my homegirl beat up.”
“This man is upset that I despatched his girlfriend textual content messages of him begging me, saying he was going to remove his life, saying he was going to remove my life,” Cardi defined.
Along with calling him “suicidal,” she went on to say that Offset despatched sexually specific movies of the 2 of them to her new boyfriend, New England Patriots vast receiver Steffon Diggs.
“Thoughts you, he despatched textual content messages to a man I used to be coping with movies of me and him having intercourse,” she revealed. “That’s the type of s–t that I used to be coping with for the previous two months.”
Don’t Get It Twisted
Self-sexual exploitation is integral to Cardi B’s private {and professional} model. Interval. The “WAP” rapper is unapologetic about her sexuality whether or not it’s sharing that child No. 3 was conceived on a “actually nasty night time” after “get[ting] d–ked down on New Yr’s Eve” or rapping the lyrics, “I instructed him [Offset] the opposite day / Man, we must always promote that porn” on their 2018 observe “MotorSport.”
Nevertheless, there’s a really distinct distinction between rapping about promoting a intercourse tape on wax and revenge porn, which isn’t solely a criminal offense, but in addition a type of abuse.
Based on Ladies’s Justice NOW, “Nonconsensual pornography or cyber sexual abuse, generally often called revenge porn, is the act of sharing an intimate picture of one other particular person with out their consent. In different phrases, posting nude, partially nude, or sexually specific photos of somebody with out their permission on-line or forwarding non-public images by way of textual content would each be thought-about nonconsensual pornography.”
From Megan Thee Stallion’s incessant twerking movies to Bianca Censori’s near-naked “ensemble” at this yr’s Grammys purple carpet, sexually suggestive or specific content material is now extra ubiquitous than ever. In truth, many celebrities and common of us alike select to share nude pics and movies on platforms reminiscent of X (previously Twitter), OnlyFans, and Pornhub for capital achieve and/or notoriety. Subsequently, it will possibly turn into tough to decipher between intercourse content material that was “by accident leaked” or intentionally posted, and revenge porn.
So, to maintain issues easy, right here’s what it is advisable to know:
– You will have the suitable to count on non-public photos to stay non-public
– Sharing or publicizing intimate content material with out your consent is in opposition to each civil and legal regulation
– You will have a proper to demand the content material be faraway from the web, although this course of will be extraordinarily tough
Additionally, be aware that just about each state within the U.S. has legal guidelines defending victims of nonconsensual pornography. With one in 10 ladies underneath the age of 30 having skilled both threats to share or the precise sharing of intimate private images with out their consent, it’s crucial to remain knowledgeable about your rights and recourse.
Above all, stay diligent in regards to the people you create and share sexually specific content material with. The particular person may very well be a fling or your husband and the daddy of your kids, like within the case of Cardi B and Offset. However irrespective of how the connection is outlined, “revenge porn, is one place the place the digital age and misogyny meet.”
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