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I attempt to keep out of different individuals’s relationships as a lot as attainable; I’ve my very own marriage to maintain afloat with out different individuals’s issues clouding my love story. Regardless of my finest makes an attempt, my social media timelines have determined that in the present day — on this right here December twelfth within the yr of our lord two thousand and twenty-four — that I will likely be a celebration to the shenanigans of Remy Ma and Papoose. Right here’s what I do know, in a nutshell.
The couple, who as soon as have been Love & Hip Hop: New York‘s favourite duo, are nonetheless married.”. Remy allegedly cheated on Papoose with a dude that Pap ultimately knocked out. Pap desires a divorce. They’re nonetheless married. Remy alleges that she’s truly been the trustworthy one and Pap has been dishonest on her whereas they’re nonetheless married and dwell collectively. They’ve a child caught up in all of this. This has to have been happening for at the very least a yr or extra at this level. They’re nonetheless married. It’s all an excessive amount of.
On social media, Remy and Pap have been buying and selling social media photographs at each other about one another’s alleged (do we’ve to name them alleged at this level?) infidelities and indiscretions. Severely, simply go to their Instagram accounts, all of the receipts are there. And within the occasion they each smart up and delete every thing (which doesn’t look probably), each Black gossip web site has the entire back-and-forth. We have now screenshots and images and captions and IG tales and the entire 9. Each avenue and try and destroy each other is being employed at this level.
Whereas the messiness that they’re using in direction of each other really solely impacts them and their households (pray for the children), there are some classes for the remainder of us to be taught right here. Reminders, if you’ll, that always come from the world of celebrities, love, and social media. (Shouts to Keke Palmer and Darius Jackson and Halle Baily and DDG, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera for the numerous examples of the price of public relationships).
2025 is correct across the nook. By my mathematical calculations, that are at all times astute, we’ve 19 (or 18 relying on if you learn this) days left in 2024, a yr I can’t wait to maneuver on from. Folks prefer to get all reflective and aspirational across the new yr so I hope that anyone being attentive to Remy and Pap’s ballyhoo goes into 2025 with a thoughts to maintain your relationship pratfalls off social media. Certain, it’s high quality to publish photos of serious others and share the great instances. However once we get to utilizing platforms for pettiness (which seems like a fundraiser — I guarantee you it isn’t) the connection has no selection however to change into the Titanic.
Plus, let’s say you do determine to attempt to work issues out after having gone nuclear on social media, the remainder of us are usually not solely not supportive however divest absolutely. I don’t need to hear something about your relationship with that poisonous particular person you determined to “do life” with as a result of you might have love regardless of the haters. You don’t even have haters; you might have individuals who you dragged into your nonsense that now you need to keep out of it.
Hold the detailed day by day inner-workings of the ups and downs of your romantic lives off of social media, I encourage of you. It’s a lot simpler to be a cheerful couple with out EVERY different human being able to touch upon it.
I don’t know what is going to come of Remy and Pap’s relationship. By all accounts (that’s a pun because it’s throughout social media) their relationship has been over. Why they’re nonetheless married is past me. From what I can see they’ve each moved on. Although I suppose they nonetheless dwell collectively. Adults must learn to grownup. I hope their youngsters are all okay on this, however the youngsters virtually by no means are. Mother and Dad are combating, publicly, after they actually ought to simply have ALL of those conversations in personal.
Please, any individual, take their telephones and bear in mind, don’t be Remy Ma and Papoose.
Panama Jackson is a columnist at theGrio and host of the award-winning podcast, “Pricey Tradition” on theGrio Black Podcast Community. He writes very Black issues, drinks very brown liquors, and is fairly fly for a lightweight man. His greatest accomplishment so far coincides together with his Blackest accomplishment so far in that he acquired a cellphone name from Oprah Winfrey after she learn one in every of his items (greatest) however he didn’t reply the cellphone as a result of the caller ID mentioned “Unknown” (Blackest).
